Why Do People Choose Non-Monogamy?
Are people non-monogamous because they want to have a lot of s€x?
The short answer is NO.
People tend to associate non-monogamy with frequent sexual activity and even perceive non-monogamous people as promiscuous.
However, non-monogamy subscribes to two tenets for which the focus is not precisely sex:
💛 The “abundance model” of love (see images above)
💛 The incredible potential of relationships to be tailored to each individual’s specific needs through consent and honest communication.
“Opportunities for love and connection are so abundant that they tend to waltz on the front door at the most inconvenient times.” - Franklin Veaux, More than Two
Aside from that, the “lots of s€x” misconception is oblivious to the fact that some of us are asexual and still have intimate and romantic relationships with others.
Here are some types of non-monogamous relationship models:
“Being married to multiple partners.”
When “you can sleep with folks outside of your primary relationship or marriage.” Relationships with others tend to be strictly sexual.
“When a couple has sex with another couple and/or ‘swaps partners.’”
Relationships that are, “for the most part, monogamous, but allow for little acts of sexual indiscretion (with the partner’s knowledge).”
“The act of having intimate relationships with more than one person at the same time.”
“A relationship between a group of people where all members are equal partners in the relationship, and no one has sex with or dates people outside the group.”
“An approach to relationships, usually non-hierarchal, where there are no set rules or expectations other than the ones that involved partners agree upon.”
Love is an infinite resource, and relationships are for us to design.
Why Do People Choose Non-Monogamy? was originally published on My Sex Bio’s blog on August 10, 2022.
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